Here’s the deal life coaching isn’t about making one massive
change in your life that will make all your dreams come true.
The most successful life coaching programs help you manipulate your thinking about your current circumstances and find ways and things to make your life more enjoyable. They help you do this so that the things you most desire in life will readily come to you.
One of my top clients helped me learn this early on in my coaching career. When I transitioned from fitness coaching to life coaching, I was OBSESSED with proving to my clients and potential clients that I could help them make substantial transformational changes. And that those changes would make their wildest dreams a reality.
Many of the methods I used back then were tools handed down to me by my coach and tools I had used on myself and other clients to help them create change. They were effective and my clients had success with these high risk high reward tools. As a fitness coach, I learned through my training and education (I have a B.A. in Kinesiology- Exercise Science) that massive results happened when you compound training, mental health, and fueling your body with the right things. Naturally, when you add a bit of an impulsive mentality, mostly coaching people exactly like myself, my knowledge and experience in the effects of stacking tools big results in a short amount of time, taking significant risks for big reward became my signature way to success.
And in walked one of the sweetest, most caring people I know. They told me right off the bat that they wanted to start living the life they desired but weren’t willing to just in and quit their job to make it happen. I was stunned that they would come into our pre-coaching meeting expecting me to tell them:
- QUIT YOUR JOB
- Go after your dreams
- Don’t worry, it will be alright
- This is what you have to do to finally live the life you are dreaming of
- It’s my way or the highway.
I hadn’t realized this was the vibe I was putting out there. I admire them for being willing to address this with me. I was humbled they were still willing to invest in their growth with me even though they thought I would expect them to blindly follow me and make huge changes without a care in the world. But most importantly, it really made me realize that I was feeding a message to my audience that:
“to live the life they want full of love, energy, and freedom
they would have to follow the same exact path I did.”
After our pre-coaching call reviewed my exclusive polishing process (my coaching method) and realized I needed to make some tweaks to the program. The messaging to my audience would have to change too. This would be the only way I could help more people more efficiently achieve their goals and ensure their goals would be long-lasting. I made changes in the program and I am so glad I did. Because of this conversation, and the wiliness of this amazing person all of the people I have been so privileged to work with are able to focus on little shifts in the life they are living now to help them move towards:
- Love
- An Abundance of Energy
- And a Life Full of Freedom
The best life coaches understand when they have to make changes. The best life coaches listen to their clients, potential clients, and their audience. And the best life coaches learn from all experiences life has to offer to help them empower the people they meet to help them live like they have always wanted. I hope if you take anything away from this blog post, it is that you can have all the things you want and it just starts with little shifts, little changes in the exact life you are living to move you closer to:
- More free time
- Abundance
- Stronger and love filled relationships and everything you have been longing for.
Kathryn Sogard 